Okay, I love How I Met Your Mother. It calls to me. I took a dozen of quizzes and got the mother (which is awesome because that means I’m worth waiting for according to the description, obvi). It’s something that I grew up watching. It was my hope through break ups, it was something I bonded with my sister over, and it was something that had Neil Patrick Harris in it. It may not be the artsy show or push the envelope, but relates everything about growing up through the good and the bad. It’s a show that has someone for everyone— the long term couple, the hopeless romantic, the one afraid of love, and the one who could give less of a shit about love and feelings.
Here are some lessons I learned from How I Met Your Mother. (Warning: May Contain Spoilers)
- Love is nonsensical. When Robin has cold feet on the day of her wedding, she tells Ted exactly what he wanted to hear. “I should be with you.” We’ve all had moments where we wait for a realization to come to fruition, but it never feels like the way it should. It’s like we realize, no one is worth waiting for if they don’t realize we’re worth it either. Ted tells Robin that love is nonsensical. You just feel the way you feel about someone and sometimes it just works. There’s no logic going into it or out of it. Love is nonsensical.
- The right one is worth it. Lily and Marshall have been together for years and years, a love most of us hope to find one day. A frequent theme in modern dating is putting off relationship statuses and labels because of fear of getting too serious. In reality, when you want someone you’ll be with them. It doesn’t matter how hard you work or how much you have going on, you’ll be with someone and make time if your heart desires it. Marshall and Lily made it work, Beyonce and Jay-Z made it work despite busy schedules, you just got to be able to look at that person like Marshall looks at Lily and know it’s worth it.
- People change. Barney wasn’t the relationship type, and now look. He’s getting married. While overarching themes of who we are as people never change, most of the time our values do too. If someone doesn’t want a relationship with you, they might meet someone they do want a relationship with like Barney and Robin. It doesn’t mean Ted was a bad person, it just means Ted is meant for someone else.
- Nothing good happens after 2 AM… Nothing good happens after 2 AM. Go home.
- Never judge your friends. Sure, they might be disgusted with Barney or roll their eyes at Ted or not understand Lily and Marshall’s love, but they are always there for each other. They never talk shit and they never judge.
- Some traditions are worth keeping. Couple-y stuff might seem stupid, but it’s nice when you’re include. Marshall and Lily start to question the traditions, but traditions are also what helps keep the love alive.
- Love the little moments. It’s the little moments that lead to the bigger picture. When someone remembers an insignificant detail, it can remind you how significant you are to some people.
- Sometimes you have to do your own thing. Lily wanted to move to Italy to follow her dreams and she knew she would be away from her friends who are family, but your friends will understand that you have to do your own thing.
- There’s only one vow. To be honest. Promises can be broken and things never go as planned, but as long as you’re honest with everything and live with a loving heart life will take you where it needs to be.